How a Dominatrix should be?

  Another topic that I believe it`s a must talk about is Dominatrixes, and how a dominatrix should be.

  I believe in the methodology of domination where I break up the dominatrix into four archetypes within the dominant self,

they are the Authoritarian,

the Seductress,

the Mother and

the Queen archetypes.

These are four archetypes are necessary for someone to step into the dominant role.

And even if your partner maybe feel more like in her own sexual desires or she wants to be more submissive than dominant I think all women have a queen in them at least.

  So if you can touch base with that and connect with the Queen archetype within, which is a very receiving like the direction is more of a receiving than giving the dominance, if you just kind of receive the submission and the worship coming from the submissive and just be like wow, they love and adore me, they worship me and I feel so filled up by that like if it makes me feel really good that’s being a dominatrix

  So a dominatrix isn’t just one thing. It’s not what you see in the movies were in the movies.

You see the authoritarian basically it’s the one that’s you know, kind of like shouting out the orders telling you what to do and being bossy and things like that.

That’s the more active part of the dominatrix but the receiving part is also very dominant for me to just be like, I take in what you give me, I receive it and I appreciate all your gifts because the submission is a gift.

Your submission is like it’s going out to her it’s going to the dominant So, for her to just receive your submission as a gift is huge.

  This is the methodology.

Archetypal psychology is a huge it is part it.

The dominatrix can be broken down into four archetypes, the authoritarian archetype and each dominatrix.

Each,  dominatrix, who’s fully developed has these four archetypes.

The Authoritarian

The dark, the strict, the authoritarian is the one that’s in control. She’s the boss See, she gives you commands in order she sets the tone of the of the scene.

When you step into a scene with a dominatrix.

You want to see her authoritarian archetype come out, because you want to immediately be told what to do, because you don’t know what to do in the  setup.

So you want her to be like, these are the rules.

This is what you do.

This is how I want you to be.

That’s the authoritarian and that’s the mental aspect.

The Seductress

The seductress archetype is that’s the sadist.

She’s the one that takes enjoyment from your suffering.

She is erotic, and sensual, and enjoys the play deep at her core.

You know, whatever the suffering is, it could be physical suffering, it could be mental suffering, it could be humiliation, it could be putting, you know, putting you down in a predicament, but whatever that is.

She receives pleasure from your pain and suffering.

The seductress is the erotic energy.

 That’s the sensual sexual part of the interplay between the dom and a sub. Because if you don’t feel your Dom’s enjoyment, then it’s not that hot.

You might think that she’s all authoritarian, but no seductress.

But the best-case scenario is to have her be bossy and sexy, and, she wants to derive enjoyment from your pain, right?

The Mother

And then there’s a mother archetype that was very important, because she is the one that has the emotional connection, she sets the container of safety.

If you don’t feel safe. With your dominatrix. You can’t let go. It’s impossible to let go.

If you don’t feel safe in the container that she’s built, she has to be there the whole time.

While she’s going to be there in the beginning, in the pre-scene, talked before you start the scene.

She’s going to be there, psychically or subconsciously, she’s going to tell you, and she’s going to let you know that she understands everything about your fantasies.

What it is that you want, what your submissive desires are, she’s there, she’s there throughout.

She might not be there overtly throughout the whole scene.

But she can be there momentarily. Throughout the scene you may have glimpses of her, you’ll know she’s set, you know that she’s keeping you safe.

The Queen

And then the Queen archetype is the spiritual connection.

And she’s the one that makes you feel like you’re in awe of her.

A submissive has a need to feel in awe of the dominatrix.

 There’s a need for the submissive to worship her.

And just to be like, You know what? I just to worship a powerful woman.

I feel like that’s a very innate desire in men. In all men, I think that there’s the innate desire to worship the female presence, her physical beauty, her inner beauty, all of that.

I mean, like, my god, women are beautiful.

So to have permission to just pour that adoration out.

And just expressing it is so liberating for the submissive.

And so the Queen archetype is part of the dominant traits that allow for that to happen.

And this is the archetype that as Dom’s we bring out to the world, this is this is what the world sees.

You’re not necessarily going to see , the authoritarian and the seductress. But the queen is always there.

The queen will always be there.

So I developed these archetypes because as I  went through my years of dominating, I figured out, there are these different elements coming out in me, and analyzed from my submissives what are their needs for,  so as a psychological thinker, I put them into categories.

And these are the categories,  that are the archetypes within a fully developed dominatrix.

  I saw this often, with dominatrixes who are just starting out, they might have like one or maybe two archetypes that are developed, maybe not fully, but she’s at least in touch with, one or two of these.

As a fully grown dominatrix, must have developed all of them.

The most important is the ability to move between the various energies. We need all of them, we need to be able to feel safe, we need to be able to embody that ability to either be worshipped or to have that energy worshipped, in the queen archetype

 The mother archetype. Is that the one that makes you feel safe.

Something I personally believe is, the degree to which we feel safe is typically the degree to which we will express.

And, if you don’t feel that motherly safe energy, then it’s not likely that you will feel comfortable enough to lean into some of the other archetypes because your nervous system doesn’t feel good here.

  This topic is important to be acknowledged, on how a dominatrix must be.

Subs who are kind of new in this world might not know this, you want to look for these things in the DOM that you want to explore.

  I think that it’s important or valuable to at least have one experience with an experienced dominatrix, or at least one conversation like this, with a Pro Dom.